Modern life gives so many ease way but at same time share a high tension situation. the metropolitan and tech socialite mostly are those who live in high pressure, stressful and frustrated conditions. precisely, those who always seek perfection and flawless life are those who get insane first and living insecurity.
Is it true?
I can’t say my statement is 100% correct but most of time, in my life experience the higher your life status, the higher you want to pursue, the higher you expect for your life the higher you feel stress, depress and frustrated.
the first sign is always easy to get mad
angry is the very first emotion show up even someone could get angry easily without notice what the reason why should be angry. the anger emotion is kind of “mask” emotion. you shouldn’t be really find the reason to be angry but the anger just burst in that way.
someone who feel shame, shy, afraid and etc most of it will show anger first in other to protect their selves rather than directly showing how shame or afraid they are.
this time, I will talk about feeling being trapped and throwing tantrum.
feeling being trapped for me is kind of feeling you can’t do anything with your situation, you feel hopeless and no help. actually the real situation might not that serious but when your mind decided it is that, your feeling automatic follows it.
the theory is so easy the practise hard to do but still do-able.
low to mild stress is the daily stress that we face in our daily life whether about job, relationship, kids, friends, etc. sometimes, this kind of stress won’t stay too long and we easy to deal with it. the longest might takes 2-3 days.
the worse stress is the mild-high which could lead to mental disorder or make you losing your sane (being insane). the repeat crying and laughing at the same time might consider as mental disorder or bipolar (some say the syndrome of mood swing)
if you having this kind of emotion, I suggest you, find help cause this kind of things you can’t deal by your own. if you wait longer it just make everything become worsen.
I have friend (let called her A) who in her routine dealing with high pressure job load, stressful work environment and even at home she still need to deal with her younger sister. she thought being stress just normal, but it happen more than years until one day she just couldn’t understand what happen to her.
she cried and laughed on one day in interval. nothing really happen that day. as she told me, she said it was bright sunday. she woke up late and suddenly she felt like want to cry and tears just went down. she cried for a moment. she sat down taking a cup of green tea, trying to stabilize herself. not after that, she suddenly feeling so happy, she smiles without reason.
the funny part, she even asked other friend, did she was possess by something because this just abnormal. I remembered that day she told us this story, one of my friend was studied psychology, let called her F. F told us minus the A, she predicted A might having bipolar due to her stressful workload and others factors.
all of us know A work so hard because her family depend on her and her boss kind of “monster and jerk” her payment not too high but finding a job in my town difficult for the person who strong in brain but not in outer-appearance (slim, white, beautiful, etc)
F didn’t tell her prediction because she afraid A gonna burdensome so we asked her out to have relaxation girl time. we brought her to spa and doing yoga. actually this kind of things can’t really guarantee you to cure and heal but it just alternative to make it better not worsen.
about tantrum…
not only kids who are throwing tantrum to parents when they don’t get what they want but the adult also have their tantrum.
the worse tantrum of adult might kill or suicide. the damaging action cause of anger is throwing tantrum in different way.
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